You've Been Preparing for This Your Whole Life

As a gay man over 50, you might be feeling that the best part of your life is behind you. The truth is that you've been preparing for this moment your whole life. Now is the time to show the world all of who you are and share your unique gifts. The Emerging Man Program is a 3-month coaching container to help you reclaim the parts you've diminished over the years and realign your life with the truest version of you.

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The symptoms of the two primary issues

You may have noticed some things feel more challenging now. There may even be things you'd never noticed before that don't feel aligned. Some common challenges are:

You might be struggling with finding a sense of meaning and purpose in your work or other activities.
You may have found yourself re-entering the dating scene after some time and feeling unsure of yourself.
You're feeling anxious about your legacy or what you'll leave behind for others to remember you by.
You may be feeling that the best years are behind you.
You may be lonely or feeling isolated and unsure how to make and maintain new friendships.
You may feel unneeded or unwanted and unsure of how you can contribute.
Or maybe you've struggled with "Peter Pan" syndrome and feel like you're still trying to live as if you're in your 20s.

What I've discovered is that often these challenges result from or at the very least are amplified by two things. First, as a gay man, you've likely learned to mask yourself throughout your life. Over time, you've hidden parts of yourself that you didn't feel safe to express. This often leads to living as a version of you that isn't really the true version. Second, many gay men see getting old as diminishing. You might honestly believe that the best times are behind you. My method focuses on

This could be the best part of your life

Imagine if you could shift your perspective to view your earlier life as preparation for the best part. You might find that:

Others see you as a trusted source of wisdom and counsel.
Your work feels more meaningful and filled with purpose.
You have a bigger impact on those around you.
You begin building a legacy to be proud of.
You begin living vigorously again with joy, purpose, and energy.
You discover your "tribe" and build deep connection with those around you.

I've been where you are

Hi, I'm Julian and for the longest time I resisted growing older. Our culture is so obsessed with youth that it feels like being turning 50 as a gay man renders you invisible. I know I felt that way. I faced many of the same challenges that other gay men face as they age. I struggled to be seen professionally and personally. I didn't have good role models for growing older as a gay man. I didn't know how to build and maintain friendships and struggled to find a sense of community.

I discovered there that it is possible to truly flourish. I worked to figure out what that would look like and how to get there. I've discovered that these truly are the best years. The experience and wisdom I've gained over my life have allowed me to unlock my deepest gifts. From reflecting on my own journey into aging courageously and fabulously, I've created a framework called the Emergence Method in order to guide other gay men on this journey. The first step is simply having the desire and willingness to be seen for all of who you are.

The Emergence Method

The Emergence Method is my signature coaching framework and forms the foundation of the Emerging Man program. The method recognizes that your life journey is not a straight line but rather a series of circles spiraling along. Each circle or cycle goes through 6 movements. The end of each cycle naturally flows into the beginning of the next cycle. In this way, The Emergence Method provides a framework for continual growth in your life journey.

The Six Movements of the Emergence Method

Movement 1: Imagining During movement 1, you focus on imagining what is possible. What is the best possible life you can create for yourself? You'll also be challenged to investigate any beliefs you might be holding onto around aging as a time of diminishment.

Movement 2: Remembering Next, you explore your identity and reclaim any traits or characteristics that you've denied. You'll explore your story around who you are and all the places that you may have been hiding parts of yourself.

Movement 3: Realigning Having reclaimed the true version of yourself, the next movement focuses on exploring how aligned your life is with you are now. What areas of your life need to be brought into alignment with your new deeper awareness of who you are.

Movement 4: Connecting Community and connection with others is important. In this movement, you'll explore your own attitudes toward the gay community and how ready you are to connect with others. You'll explore what it means to find your tribe or chosen family and gain skills for connecting with others on a deeper level.

Movement 5: Expressing The next movement is about reclaiming the power of your expression. This might look like making art, writing, or just about how you communicate from this new perspective.

Movement 6: Reflecting Finally, you reflect and integrate everything from this cycle through the 6 movements of the Emergence Method. During this time, you'll anchor the learnings you've gained while also preparing for the next cycle through the movements.

What's included in The Emerging Man Program

The Emerging Man 1:1 Coaching Program is a 3-month 1:1 coaching container. In addition, to live sessions, you will receive access to additional resources to support your movement through the Emergence Method between sessions. You will get the following:

Live 90-minute deep-dive session to help you set goals for the 3-month program and explore the challenges that you're currently facing
12 Live 60-minute 1:1 coaching sessions over Zoom. These sessions are where you'll process each movement through the Emergence Method, shift your perspective and uncover new avenues of possibility.
Email, Text, and Telegram support between your sessions. You can share your wins, ask questions, or just vent as needed between live sessions.
Live 45-minute Human Design Foundation Session to support movement 2 of the Emergence Method.
Digital library of somatic practices, rituals, guided meditations and affirmations to help you realign your energetic being and mindset around the areas that are challenging you.

Self-Investment $2397

The Emerging Man 3-month coaching program is $2397. Payment plans are available.

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